Conversations with Wikiball

I went to brunch with Jessica (aka Wikiball) on Sunday and had such a great time. She and I haven't been to breakfast/brunch in a very long time and when I woke up craving a Dutch Baby, I gave her a call. It was raining and we spent the entire 3o minutes of our wait outside in the rain, but managed to enjoy ourselves. We chit chatted about all the normal everyday stuff like what went on during the week and all of that. We talked about my online dating and how that was going. And then we spent a lot of time talking about life and growing up and how awesome our friends are. We run around with a lot of the same people but have different circles we chill with as well.


I can't remember what started us on the subject but we were talking about maturity and being an adult and all the fun stuff that comes along with it. I think we talked about insecurities as well. We talked a lot about growing up and how much people change individually in the course of just a few years. From 20-25 I did a lot of growing and learning. Looking back at that time, I felt like I couldn't possibly grow quite as much as I had in so few years. Now, looking back from 25 to the present, I can't believe how much I've continued to grow. I'm trying to become the woman I dream of being and I know that I have a lot of work yet to be completed. It absolutely amazes me, though.


About two months ago, Jessica told me she was planning on moving to Boston within the next year. The old me (young, passive/aggressive) would have taken this news slightly personally.

"Why is she moving"
"Am I not a good enough friend to keep her here?"
"Why can't I move away and have fun adventures, too?"

While the older and more mature me embraced the news (was sad for a minute, and still am slightly sad about it) and congratulated her for making such a hard decision and following through with completing one of her biggest life goals. Yes, I'll miss her. But hey, I've always wanted to see Boston, and now I have the perfect opportunity (ies)!


This also got me thinking about how lucky I am to have so many close and wonderful friends in my life. (Disclaimer: The order in which I list the friends has no bearing on how much I value them in my life...)
~I have Auri (duh, who doesn't know that) and I will treasure our relationship for as long as I live. She is literally my rock.
~I have Noelle who I absolutely adore, because well, she's EXACTLY like me (give or take a few things).
~I have Paul & Brittany (they are now a collective whole) who I can't get enough of and who I truly enjoy spending every minute I get with them.
~I have Rose who is never afraid to say what she means and always entertains me with her grammatical faux pas.
~I have Jessica who laughs at everything I do... I didn't think I was that funny, but I enjoy that she thinks I am.
~I have Odum who is a very loving and compassionate soul and who has always told me what a wonderful person I am (sorry this is getting really sappy).
~I have Jen (and now Joe, her man, not the drummer) who I've really enjoyed getting to know better over this last year - she's so genuine, I love it - and Joe will obviously go out of his way to look after my best interests.
~I have Kasian who is so much fun to spend time with and helps me to remember I need to be smart with my moola (even though I'm pretty sure she doesn't know she does this).
~I have Angie C. and Di Bradley who I don't get to see as much as I'd like, but we are always able to pick up right where we left off without a hitch.
~And then I have my new friend Lisa (and the beeotch is in Hawaii right now) who is always the life of the party.
~I also have to mention all the friends I've made in blogland as well. I've truly enjoyed getting to know all of you through your blogs, even though I know most of us will never meet....


I truly never thought I'd be blessed with so many great friends. Most of the time, we tend to lose connections and relationships as time goes by. However, I've been fortunate enough to have the opposite happen for me and I wouldn't trade any of them for the world! Growing up and becoming an adult appears to suck for the most part. But the parts in between all the bullshit we have to sort through are so, so sweet.